Some journeys through blocked tubes take years, and this one is far from over. But if you're currently living with hydrosalpinx, an ectopic pregnancy history, or a diagnosis that leaves you with more questions than answers, this story might feel familiar — and I hope it gives you something to hold onto.
How It Started
In 2023, a young lady reached out to me on Facebook. We belonged to the same fertility group, where I share ideas about natural remedies for blocked tubes. She asked for my number, messaged me on WhatsApp, and told me she needed help with blocked tubes.
At the time, she had only one tube left. She'd lost the other in 2020 to an ectopic pregnancy that damaged it beyond repair. Now hydrosalpinx had taken hold in her one remaining tube, and she wanted help opening it. She'd tried several things before coming to me — none of them had worked.
We agreed on the program fee, she paid, and we got to work.
Doing the Work: Diet, Herbs, and Physical Therapy
I helped her adjust her diet, recommended herbal teas to take alongside it, and advised her to start physical therapy. None of it was easy. She was constantly out at the market sourcing herbs, and she'd check in with me even over the specific meals she planned to eat that day.
Around this time, a friend of hers got pregnant, and it hit her hard. She was genuinely happy for her friend, but she also longed for the same thing — that quiet ache of watching everyone else become a mother while you're still waiting.
She didn't give up.
A Second Ectopic Pregnancy — and a Devastating Discovery
After a year or more of consistent effort, she conceived — only for it to turn into another ectopic pregnancy, April, 2024. At first, she didn't realize what was happening. She was simply excited to have missed her period. Weeks later, the abdominal pain started, and doctors confirmed the diagnosis.
The news broke her. She sank into depression, lost interest in the herbs and the diet, stopped responding to messages, and at one point told me she was tired of her life. I encouraged her to stay positive and also gave her space to recover— six to nine months passed before she reached out again, ready to try the natural remedies once more.
What neither of us knew yet was far worse than we imagined.
She'd continued going for regular checkups even before this second ectopic pregnancy. Now, ready to restart, her husband ordered more herbs from me. She used them for months — and at some point began to ask why, after two ectopic pregnancies, she still hadn't conceived.
I told her plainly: two ectopic pregnancies strongly suggested her tubes weren't open, and the only way to know for certain was an HSG. She agreed, and I also urged her to see her doctor first. This time, she chose a different hospital from the one that had handled her earlier ectopic surgery.
The 2026 HSG results were devastating. The doctor told her and her husband that no tubes were visible at all — she had none left. Stunned, they went back to the original hospital, the one that had performed her ectopic surgery, demanding answers. That's when the truth came out: her remaining tube had been damaged by the second ectopic pregnancy and removed — and she had never been told.
More than a year had passed. Months of natural remedies, diet changes, and physical therapy — all while neither of us knew there was no tube left to heal. It explained everything, and none of it made the news easier to hear.
Facing Pressure — and Choosing IVF
They went home and tried to make sense of it. When her husband's extended family learned what had happened, some were supportive. Others weren't — one uncle pressured her husband to take a second wife. He refused.
Money had always been the sticking point. She'd said more than once that if she had the funds, she would have gone straight for IVF. When she was at her lowest, I reminded her that IVF was still very much on the table — that with support from family and friends, and perhaps a loan, the cost didn't have to be the wall it seemed.
She wasn't fully convinced at first. But eventually, she and her husband talked it through, and he got on board. The last time we spoke, she was asking me for tips to prepare for IVF — diet, mainly. I gave her what I could, but other commitments pulled my attention, and we lost touch for about six months.
To be continued.
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